My husband left this morning to go snomobiling in the Adirondacks with his father and brother. This is the third year he's taken the trip. The third year he's left me with the kids to play in the snow. The third year he's missed Valentine's Day.
You may think I'd be bitter. I'm not. I'm happy for him, excited for him. Why? Because he deserves it. Scott is one of the hardest workers I've ever met, both at home and work. He is a wonderful father and husband. He does a great job at balancing a 60+ hour work week with the precious time he does get with family, not an easy task. He unwinds in the snow and probably prefers it to the beaches of our current home in Georgia. As his wife, his support...why wouldn't I want to give him that time, once a year?
You're still not convinced? You're worried I'll feel unloved on the upcoming Hallmark holiday, Valentine's Day? He not only left me with three kids, kids we created out of love and who give the absolute best hugs, better than any boquet of roses, but with cards to open too. He thought ahead and bought cards for the kids to give me. He had them sign them last night. Gracie told me this morning that the Dora one is from her! I didn't even do that. I thought about it, but didn't do it. And what about the kids...Valentine's Day is so much more about them then Scott and I right now. There are cards to get, school parties to prepare for. I don't need to get extra-expensive flowers or pay a baby-sitter to go out and pay for dinner. Scott shows me and tells me he loves me every day. He can buy me chocolates and sweep me off my feet anytime...missing this one opportunity isn't reason enough to be bitter.
So, if you're convinced that I love Scott, want what's beneficial to him, and really harbor no bad feelings...pass it on! Convince the nay-sayers around me...or at least ask them nicely to stay quiet. If you're not convinced...well, nicely stay quiet.