Occasionally it occurs to me that I hardly ever call my husband by his name when talking to him. When I'm talking about him I do, or I call him Dada and Daddy, depending on what I'm saying. But when I'm talking to him I rarely call him Scott. I call him Love, Sweets, Sweetie, Honey, Hun. He rarely calls me Annie either, but uses mostly the same nicknames for me. And when I write him it seems odd to sign my name. I usually just sign "me." After all, after the content of the message, it's not like there's a question who the letter or email is from! Right?
I like pet names. Not only do I use them with Scott, but with a lot of others too. Gracie has been Sweet Pea or Sweetie. Jace often hears, "What, Bud?" when pestering me. Tyler started the monkey moniker that now refers to all the kids. I also call him Linus sometimes and Snuggle Bunny other times. It's quite cute, though - he usually says, "No, me Lyler." He's most definitely my little Lyler!
It's not just my immediate family that gives and gets pet names. One of my oldest friends often calls me Gorgeous! I mean, really? Can you beat the feeling of that little window opening on facebook with the words "Hello gorgeous?" I don't think so. And she's not just saying it. She truly believes I'm beautiful. And I feel it when she says it.
Isn't that what pet names are about? Bringing out feelings of joy, being special, feeling loved? I gotta tell you...when Gracie calls me Princess (although I've never considered myself a princess) I feel special. And when Scott calls me Ann Marie (which is technically my actual name) that feels incredible warm and loving. Even when my sister calls me sister, it's a special thing for me.
So, it's obvious that I'm loved. It's obvious that I feel it. I don't really think the power of all that joy and the depth of these relationships are really in the name calling...but the words we share certainly help give all those emotions life.
Do you have any little names you share with a special someone? I hope you feel just as happy, cared about, and comforted as can be when you hear your pet names.